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Air Travel and the Subtle Art of Influence
August 12, 2022

A story about what a delayed flight can teach us about the art of influencing outcomes.


Air travel can be a real challenge.

It wreaks havoc on our universal and very human needs for certainty and autonomy.

It is not easy to surrender to the process.

It is not easy to relinquish the ability to influence certain outcomes - like whether your plane is delayed because of weather.

Recently, when our 5-hour flight landed a full hour late, well past bedtime, in the midst of a summer thunderstorm, and we heard the glorious ding of the seat belt sign turning off, the majority of the passengers remained seated to allow those with now almost impossibly tight connections to race to the front of the aircraft.

Here are the top factors that influenced hundreds of tired passengers to let others disembark ahead of them:

1) Acknowledgement

From initial boarding through landing, the pilot acknowledged not only what was happening but also the
impact it was having on the passengers, and committed to doing everything he could to attempt to safely make up some of the lost time in the air.

2) Information

Early and often, the pilot and the flight attendants freely shared detailed information about the various causes of the delays, the new expected arrival time, and the updated gate information.

3) Personalization

The flight attendant asked anyone with a tight connection to raise their hand so that others could see exactly who was being impacted.

4) Request Rather Than Demand

There was a request to allow others to deplane first. A request allows others to freely choose their response.

Turns out the majority of the plane chose to fulfill their needs for relatedness and to be a contribution to others.


Where, in your life, could acknowledgement, information, personalization, or a request positively influence an outcome?

By Colleen Byers January 8, 2025
What Attorneys and Mediators Need to Know On December 11, 2024, the North Carolina Supreme Court approved a series of important amendments to the Mediation Rules and Standards of Professional Conduct for Mediators. Effective on January 6, 2025, these changes impact key aspects of mediation practice in North Carolina.  Below is a summary of some (although not all) of the recent amendments to the Standards of Professional Conduct for Mediators, and the Mediation Rules governing settlement procedures in Superior Court, Family Financial, and Clerk of Court matters. For comprehensive redlines to each rule set, visit https://www.nccourts.gov/news/tag/general-news/supreme-court-amends-mediation-rule-sets Superior Court Mediation Amendments New Mediator Designation Forms See Rule 2(a) & (b) There are now two separate forms for mediator assignment, depending on whether the mediator is party selected or court appointed. One form entitled Designation of Mediator By Agreement of Parties in Superior Court Action and Order of Appointment (AOC-CV-812) is for parties to designate a mediator of their choice, while the other form entitled Appointment of Mediator by Court Order in Superior Court Civil Action (AOC-CV-840) is for requesting a court-appointed mediator or for court staff to file a mediator appointment where the parties have been unable to agree on the selection of a particular mediator. It is important to note that in order for any of the parties to designate a mediator of their choice, all parties, including but not limited to unrepresented parties, must agree to designate said mediator. If all parties have not expressed agreement to designate a particular mediator, then the parties and/or their counsel must use AOC-CV-840 to ask the court to select a mediator. Attorney Signatures Removed from Mediated Settlement Agreement See Rule 4(c) & Rule 10(c)(9)(b) The requirement for attorneys to sign the final settlement agreement, alongside their clients, has been removed. Updates to the form Mediated Settlement Agreement (AOC-DRC-15 and AOC-DRC-16) are anticipated so be sure to use the most up to date forms in your mediations. Party Designee Signature See Rule 4(c)(4) A clarification was made regarding the ability of a designee to sign on a party's behalf if the party does not attend the conference in person . A designee may sign the agreement on behalf of a party only if the party does not attend the mediated settlement conference in person and the party provides the mediator with a written verification that the designee is authorized to sign the agreement on the party’s behalf. The Dispute Resolution Commission’s Advisory Opinion AO 42 provides mediators with further guidance when a designee wishes to sign for a party who does not attend the mediation in person. Substitution of Mediator See Rule 7(c) The form used to request mediator substitution by mutual consent of all parties has now been linked directly to Rule 7(c) (AOC-CV-836). This makes the substitution process more efficient and standardized. Family Financial Mediation Amendments New Mediator Designation Forms See Rule 2(a) & (b) Just like the Superior Court Civil Actions, the process for assigning mediators in family financial cases has been updated with two new forms. One form (AOC-CV-825) allows for party-selected mediators, and the other (AOC-CV-841) is used to request a court-appointed mediator. Substitution of Mediator See Rule 7(c) The same update regarding mediator substitution applies here as in the other rules, with the relevant form (AOC-CV-836) linked directly to this rule. Clerk of Court Mediation Amendments New Mediator Designation Forms See Rule 2(a) & (b) Similarly to the other updates, the process for assigning mediators in matters before the Clerk of Superior Court has been divided into two forms. One form (AOC-G-302) is used for party-selected mediators, while the other (AOC-G-314) is used to request court-appointed mediators. Attorney Signature Removal See Rule 4(b) As in the other rules, the requirement for attorneys to sign the final agreement with their client has been removed from Rule 4(b). Mediator Confidentiality Amendment Exception to Confidentiality See Standard 3(d)(2) This amendment creates an important exception to the general rule of confidentiality in mediation. Specifically, it allows a mediator to testify, give an affidavit, or tender an agreement if required not only by a statute (as previously excepted) but now also by a mediation rule promulgated by a state or federal agency. The change clarifies that a mediation rule also serves as the basis under which a mediator may be compelled to breach confidentiality. Summary: What You Need to Do As of January 6, 2025, the new and updated forms should be available for use at www.nccourts.gov, and it is important to ensure your practice aligns with these amendments. The most notable changes include the following: Two different mediator designation forms, Attorneys do not need to sign the settlement agreement, and Revised mediator substitution form.
By Colleen Byers February 6, 2024
Managing Emotional Clients Colleen L. Byers collaborated with fellow neuroscience geek and mediator, Chris Osborn, to deliver this month’s Expert Continuing Legal Education (CLE) Series sponsored by the North Carolina Bar Association. Colleen co-presented about the impact of trauma on clients in the legal system and shared some practical tools for managing difficult emotions within ourselves (as lawyers or as mediators) as well as with our clients. View the CLE, which includes 1 hour of Mental Health/Substance Abuse credit in North Carolina here .
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